Planning your ceremony music
Updated: Feb 29
As a wedding singer I feel that the music is one of the most important choices you will make for your ceremony. The music you choose will enhance the already incredibly special occasion and will allow you to drift back to that day when you hear those songs again.
This is a short list of things to take into consideration before booking a wedding singer.
1. Do you need to hear them sing live?
If you have heard someone online and you like their sound but you’ve never heard them sing live it’s worth asking if you can hear them sing at some point before your wedding. This allows you to put your mind at ease and to feel confident that you’ve made a good choice. On the other hand, I’ve sung at numerous weddings where it simply wasn’t a realistic option to hear me sing live. This is particularly relevant when couples are planning a wedding form abroad. There are ways around this such as a Facetime or Skype call which should be easily organised. Luckily, in Ireland our wedding singers are very honest and I haven’t (to date!) come across someone who sounds considerably different in real life to what is online. In fact, the singer is often better live than in a recording!
2. Can you meet them in person?
As I’ve mentioned above sometimes it’s just not possible to meet your singer in person before the wedding. The whole process can easily be planned out via e-mail and phonecalls. However, given how important the day is, I think it’s always nice to meet before the big day. A chat about the music for an hour over a coffee is a lovely way to get to know a couple and makes the day seem even more personal.
3. What type of music/songs do you want?
Generally wedding singers are very versatile and can turn their hand (voice!) to most styles of music. It is still important though, to take into consideration the pieces they have posted online, as those songs are usually what they consider to be their best or most complimented pieces. Try to choose someone who sings songs in a style and genre that you like as that will make for the most compatible match.
4. Can I ask for a song not on their list?
Of course! Any wedding singer should be happy to learn a new song for you. Often, even if it’s not on their song list, there’s a possibility that they already know the song you want. Previously, I had a long, long list of songs on my website but I’ve cut it back considerably as it was too overwhelming for a most couples to choose from. I find that a more curated list makes it easier for a couple to choose what they want.
5. What do you think will work?
When a couple ask me to choose a song that will suit a particular part of the ceremony I’m always delighted. This allows me to pick something that I know will fit in with that part of the ceremony and also I can choose something that I feel I do an excellent job of singing. I believe that if a singer loves a particular song that comes through as you sing and makes it more beautiful.
I hope this was helpful.